Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological preparation for sex, anticipation of pleasure and the body's immediate physiological reaction. It is useful for every woman to know how this process occurs in men and how to speed up arousal.
Where does it all start?
The onset of arousal is posed by a variety of sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, her kisses and touches, her outward appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers of the brain that transmit a signal to the genitals via the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, says that the level of testosterone in the blood determines how aroused a man is. This conclusion is the result of a study whose results were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the corpora cavernosa of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, causing the penis to become hard, enlarge (on average 3 to 4 times) and pulsations are felt. Often, such a reaction occurs a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, an erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study of 20, 000 men. The size of their genitals was measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and when erect - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them – nocturnal (spontaneous) – occurs without sexual connotation. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitement of the brain centers. The nerve impulse is transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – appears following contact with the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touch can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing quickens and his blood pressure increases (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles become lifted. The upper body turns slightly red. A lubricating fluid is released, making it easier for sperm to pass through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful photo (a woman naked or dressed in lace lingerie, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make the excitement as strong as possible. The safest way for a girl to turn a man on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Stomach (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genitals and surrounding areas.
Foreplay begins, in most cases, with a kiss. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a man in a good mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates upcoming sexual intercourse. At this time, the occipital area can be stroked with the hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men like when their earlobes are kissed and bitten, but you need to be careful with this, because there are those who categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area for caresses before oral sex (from the navel downwards). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear: any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual arousal in men. You must be wary of sudden movements, men may be afraid for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with the hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, because the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly in all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who you are sexually attracted to, you are first psychologically aroused, then physically. But how this happens is a question little known to most people. What does science say? She views arousal as a physiological sexual response.
Or rather its first phase. That is to say a whole series of processes. They do not show differences between sexes: increased breathing and heart rate, appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well aserection of the nipples.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, change in gaze and voice. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like medicine. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, a rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication, thinning or, conversely, enlargement of the labia majora occurs (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, rise and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men redness of the skin is observed in rare cases, in women there is a rush of blood not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so visible that during and after orgasm the area between the chest, shoulders and neck may even turn scarlet.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with an influx of blood, which the body carries out in order to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and preparation for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase, there is: a plateau phase (sexual intercourse), an orgasm phase and a phase of completion of sexual reactions.
The awakening phase may not occur. It is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with an organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormonal levels are disrupted.
With certain diseases, bad habits, taking certain medications, especially those affecting the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, which is why the main reaction of sexual arousal in a mandoes not occur - filling of the corpora cavernosa with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and tobacco affect not only the physical state, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence passes from an organic form to a mixed form. You cannot delay this situation, it can be easily corrected at the beginning. You must consult a urologist or sexologist.
Men are sexually aroused far more often than they reach orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious harm to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite motto "we will excite you and not let you" is good in moderation - you should not overuse this type of entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is obtained - during sex or masturbation.